The tears of joy for me are always associated with laughter. And by laughter, I do not mean jokes which you read in some platform or random pick up lines shared across. Laughter means the nose shaking, vibrating face with eyes filled and that’s very rare to get which I have answered before as well. Usually it is tied up for me with quirky smiling jokes where it is not completely a joke but you know that it’s not a simple plane line as well. Not totally sarcastic and not totally ‘fun’ funny.
It is quite tough for me to analyze what kind of humour brings me that tear of joy but if it does come then there is no stopping, that’s a vibrant laugh which is contagious and you better be ready for the after effects.
How ironic it feels to have a blurred vision with a clear view.
Ever had a feeling where everything moving around is super speed mode that your vision becomes blurred for a moment. That does not mean we became blind but the view we get out of it is always fruitful.
Ever had a feeling where you took a deep nap and when you woke up everything felt dizzy even when the time stopped but once you were out of it, that was the best feeling ever you had.
Sometimes not having a clear view does not mean you are lost, you are just in the blurred mode. That tiny dust covering your eyes would wash away with your eye brows soon and the view out of it will mesmerize you for the rest of your time.
Not having all answers at the moment does not mean you have failed the exam. There will be multiple attempts and you will clear one of them and thank the one which did not because the meaningful answer is far better than a bookish answer.
I do not think ‘changing’ is the right word, but I would suggest that the social media gamble is the one thing people need to consider in this era. I am blaming others, including myself. We are so involved in social media that we forget to be mindful of the people around us.
Any place you go now, you will see a bunch of people wanting to do activities which can attract views on their profile, be it Instagram, Facebook or any writing platforms as well.
The urge to seek people’s validation and show one’s life to society while in a negative mental state is a trend in our modern society. I regret to say that I am also part of that group where one person’s like is equated as one person’s interest or love towards you.
I do not know how this can be changed because at this stage, it is beyond control for at least Gen Alpha or Gen Beta, who are seeing the news reports of people becoming millionaires by just dancing in front of a public platform.
It is weird to think that the generation that is shy about speaking in public platforms is now changing and becoming bold, but at the wrong places and wrong occasions. Indeed, the saying feels right: “Technology is a boon and a curse”
I believe a teacher becomes a favourite of many students because the teacher tried to look at themselves in their students place. If a teacher self acclaim as superior and just wants to finish the subject, only the rank holders would still be remembering them, rest forget as years go by.
A teacher has gone through the same phase once when he or she was a student. A teacher knows when something feels uninterested and when something needs to be stopped based on the response of students. If you are not a good observer as a teacher, you failed at that moment itself.
I will take my mother as an example. My mom is a retired headmistress who was teaching Mathematics in her teaching career. Now, mathematics is the one subject which the majority fear and run away including myself. She was a tough and strict mom at home, but to her students she was their beloved sharada(name of my mother) teacher.
Why did my mom become beloved and how did I know?
During the holidays, mom used to take me to her school since there was no one at home. I was a CBSE student and my off days were different from the state syllabus, mom was a state school teacher. Whenever I visit her school, a bunch of kids would come to the staffroom and smile at me. They wanted to see their favourite teacher’s daughter, that’s the murmur I heard.
How did she become beloved?
I have seen my mom do craftworks in the night, preparing shapes using hard objects or cardboard like a school project she was doing. When I used to ask what this was for, she said tomorrow I need to teach about the shapes and its area. Kids love when they are in curious mode and some objects are in front of them. Mom knows exactly what can make Mathematics interesting to students.
As a teacher she was doing her homework as well. So a teacher who gives homework and does theirs can become a great teacher one day.
I have also had teachers who understood their students well and we then daily wait for their class alone. It is a talent and not everyone can master it.
What is spirituality? I never got a constant answer from any of the sources for this. You live content with life with whatever you have unaffected by surrounding be it people or things around you, that is spirituality for me. I might be wrong here but for me that made sense.
To answer how important it is in my life, I do know it is really important but practically being that person for me looks impossible. I worry every moment when things do not go as I expected. I blame myself or try to be blaming someone else in mind for things not working out in my way. These things in me changed a lot as time went by, but still that inner self has the older self deeply rooted.
For me to be content with life, I need to feel satisfied with what I am now. And I do not think I have reached there. There are lots of unanswered questions in mind which maybe time will tell but it keeps on reminding like an old cassette playing the song repeatedly in broken voice when it gets stuck to the recorder.
But the question is, will we ever be satisfied? If you need to be following spirituality, satisfaction is one word which might be absent in there.
It’s tough and I hesitate to answer this always. After I saw my parents retire, I am more concerned about what retirement looks like.
My parents retired at the age of 60 and they had zero plans post retirement. Hence I could see the struggle they faced to adopt a day where they do not know what is the next work they want to do. My dad somehow found his aligned passion but my mom ended up in a confused state.
One day she would ask if she started tuition for kids since she was a teacher or should she start gardening because once upon a time she loved it. At the end she decided to be a social media writer. I still do not see her as the same as when she was in her career.
All of these things make me think, do I have an answer of what will be done for 4 hours a day when there is nothing to do. And I am not saying soon after retirement, those days will be fun because of the long rest we were wanting for. But then what? Sitting idle? Worry about passion?
One thing for sure, if I know what I will do when I am idle, idle with nothing going on, then is the time to retire. Until then find that answer and if the universe makes you retire early, hop on to a world of passions which can make you feel happy.
Still I do think, what does retirement mean. Just quitting a career does not mean retirement then is it just a gambling word just to have an end of tunnel in the journey of life.
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