What is one question you hate to be asked? Explain.
The question I hate the most would be the people asking about those names which you are trying not to talk about!!!
Not sure what I hate about it. Maybe those overwhelming emotions that come when I hear those names or the regrets of not digesting certain facts surrounded by the names. All these years there are not many names in that list but the few which are there just will never be erased.
Memories and overthinking are the two conflicting things which make these things worse. I am sure as days go by these names might just vanish or when it does come you would happily respond to it with no regrets.
What experiences in life helped you grow the most?
When I was a kid I used to think life is hard and it always had a way to break my dreams in one way or the other. I joined the CBSE school thinking of an ambitious dream of joining the IITs. But life has its own way of saying you get what you need to get to learn. I had to drop out of school for unseen circumstances in my personal life. My life had shattered down to pieces. I never thought I would continue my education as well. But here I am a proud Software Engineer even though not to IIT level but I still love what I do.
So what do you get from this is whatever happens, the life experiences turn you to a different person you ever expected but a good one always at the end. You need to trust the process of life and learn from the hurdle you got on the way. That turning point in my personal rollercoaster did make me who I am today. This might seem like a bla bla story and frankly even if I re-read I would feel the same. All are in the same boat , experiences differ and perspectives as well. Not always we get to understand at the moment. Each day even myself needs reassurance that not always every story has a happy ending or chapters, you will have a lot of twists, surprises and unexpected times.
The silent, a short young girl with a little ambition of being part of a bunch of IIT people is now a developer who is being loved by many, noticed by many and growing each day. Life did not give me what I dreamt of, but what it gave was not less than any dream of a person.
I am grateful for all those experiences which are making me better day by day. Maybe you do not get an answer today but one day you would be surprised to see this is why it happened and it was not a curse but a boon in your life. Trust the flow and your choice , if it goes as you wish still learn and try to be better. If not going in your expected direction, not to worry there is always light at the end of the tunnel !!
The more accurate question would be, do I want to believe in fate or destiny !!! It is a hard pill to swallow. When do we ask this question. When life is smooth and all is well , no one dares to look at destiny or fate right !! It is always their smartness or hardwork at those times. But when things turn ugly in your life, you turn your face towards fate or destiny!!
I have never heard people speaking of good destiny or good fate. Somehow these words are attached to unlucky or sadness which I hate to the core. Why cannot people be well destined always right!!
So do i want to believe in fate or destiny. Yes i do !! Do i believe in it ?? Not sure because things turn ugly whatever you do if it’s situational then why blame the destiny or fate!!! I want to see life as a gift given, live it as it is and not tag it with destiny. If destiny decides where I or people need to be , then the world would have been a lot more bad place. At the end it is the choice you take decides your fate and not the fate deciding your choice.
Describe a phase in life that was difficult to say goodbye to.
That peak period of your age where you stand between 28 to 30’s. This is one particular phase of life where you turn from immature to mature or try to understand what is maturity. You get to understand your parents more and you get to know that they are also just like you who have faced all these phases with a brave face. You are confused about where the future is heading, what your goals are, are you in the right direction !!
The age where you lose your love of life whom you thought was forever. The age where you fear how life has turned out to be and how you take the responsibilities thrown upon you unexpectedly. The childish tantrums are no more cute but look rude to others. The age where the harsh realities of life hits a very odd place and time.
Once you cross this phase, there is no going back you are officially a responsible person who is on their own path. You never feel like saying good bye to that phase. Even though it is filled with anxieties and confusion, the transition you get is irreplaceable.
If you could be someone else for a day, who would you be, and why?
If I could be someone else for a day, it would be the richest person in this world. I want to feel what they feel. Is there something called an end to the feeling or it just never ends.
The constant chase behind happiness over money never ends among people. So as per rule I should have in one click all facilities whichever I ask for right !! Would I be satisfied or I would still look for something more !!
Why I chose to be richest is not because I want to run behind money but the countless number of people I meet , the common goal is money. Do they have a target in mind ? I do not think so. Is money important ? Hell yeah !! But is that everything ? Hell No !! So for a day I want to be that person who just got everything in his or her life and see if the chase ends there or the game just began !!!
What is the biggest challenge you will face in the next six months?
2025 new year , I wrote that, it is the year where I am going to focus on myself and on my journey to be looking after myself more often. The biggest challenge in the coming six months is staying focused on this goal. Things always seem difficult when you start.
At first you have the starting trouble, the laziness just to make that first tiny little step of waking up early. Touchwood!! I crossed that hurdle and how??? It’s Mel Robbin’s secret weapon “The 5 second rule”. I would recommend people follow it but it is all on you how to perceive it. Not that all days of the week I succeeded, but the success rate is not so bad!!!
After crossing that tiny little step, life throws you a little surprise. You are back to zero by getting a high ranged fever. Irony right !! Life always cripples you down when everything does seem to work perfectly fine.
If you do not rise up after the surprise thrown by life what is the challenge left right!!. For my journey to look after myself more often, applies to these challenges as well and I am determined I will make whatever possible to cross this hurdle. Even if I feel low, I want to let it sink completely in and then the next day you are back to the routine.
General feedback from all those who have interacted with me is that I can initiate conversation with no age limit. Be it a kid, adult or aged person , I can talk with them. That comes to the answer what bores me is Silence !!! I love to talk. Also that does not mean I would stop anyone and start blabbering. If the talk gets clicked then thats a non stop one else you can see it in my face , I want to run from there 😃.
In recent days , choose silence over talks to try out if that helps in a peaceful mind. To my surprise silence is not bad until you have nothing going overly in mind. Books became my partner, writing became more common.
So anything idle , that just makes me want to sleep unnecessarily or think rubbish is boring for me.
Worry less and live more !! Stop predicting each event of your life and then kill the moment.
When I look back, the best advice would be to live more with no hesitation. Do the mistakes, but try not to repeat the same. Even if it repeats do not fall under the cycle of guilt trip, proudly own it. I lived in fear of people’s judgment. Even today, I struggle to some extent to get rid of it. Stop blaming your fate. Don’t blame yourself. Instead, take pride in what you have been. Celebrate where you have reached!! I am proud to say that I loved myself a lot even in my teenage years. Yet, what is different from then to now is that I realize love needs continuous nourishment. It is not just needed when you are happy. Love yourself more in each stages , its harder to apply than to say.
Happily Married with kids and one of them writing now about it , still single and looking for the right partner 😁. I was born when my dad was my current age and my brother was born when my mom was my current age 😁😁.
I am a Millennial Kid or Lady 🤪. So I come under that nostalgia gang who always talk about how things have changed and worry about the future bla bla..! For my parents generation pattern I guess they got married a bit late. My Mom who was busy focusing on her career by completing her studies and targeting to have a job. My dad was the eldest kid who lost his father at the age where all his friends were dreaming of getting to a high class job. So both were in their own mental space where marriage would be the last option they would take.
As I grew I would always get irritated and upset at how my parents are still a couple, what do they have in common (Not that they do not respect or love, the fantasy that a movie has given in a couple’s life was never seen. Also i never saw Dad and mom staying apart for even one day😀). But at this age now i understand why they are who they are (still get upset for whatsoever reason but of course they are my parents , moreover an individual with their choice of freedom ). My dad was piled up with responsibility at my age where I cannot imagine if i could take up that much stress. My mom was unaware of what family responsibility meant and the hurdles she would get in when job and family responsibility goes together.
Despite all these they have given all sorts of freedom to their extent and earned money well in a way that their kids do not have to worry or think about tension on earning to pay off loans.
So yeah my parents at my age were all in love with each other exploring the new hurdles , new drama !!
Describe your most ideal day from beginning to end.
Ah thinking of it, itself is a nice feeling. But if I dive into it, I have so many contradicting answers. Like it says start with a fresh hot tea in a balcony and enjoy the view, have breakfast then jump to your routine for some time and then to engage in some fun or boring anything which you like and sleep.
But at the same time, I also want an energetic morning where I wake and then do some workout or exercise, feel the freshness, have a healthy breakfast probably a dosa with all the nutrients in it, then read books. After which go to your routine and sleep.
If I still start thinking more, my god the answers are again varying. But one thing is common in my ideal day, a fresh calm morning with no stress involved. After that whatever activities I do or not do does not even affect me since the morning was so good !!! I guess then I can say my ideal morning makes my day ideal or best.
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