It is a mix of mist and soft cold which will feel like heaven for me. The not so cold but just gives the gist of it and the warmth you feel while you have a hot cup of coffee.
The weather which can bring me peace and some thoughts in mind to scribble, that’s my favorite one. The weather where I can get up and then walk in those roads or parks with a sweater around. The cozy weather is my kind of weather.
I kind of run away from compliments. I do not know what to answer in that situation 😅. But till date it might be many and I will not be able to make one of them win as best. Each person you meet has a different way to understand us and by that it means they have new things to discover in our attitude or work to compliment.
Some compliment to boost our mood or energy like our parents who will always have one or the other compliments about their son or daughter even if they fight with you. Some compliment genuinely for a variety of aspects in you like your friends. Some randomly give the compliment like a stranger passing by saying , your dress looks great on you.
Truth is we all internally want compliments but do not know how to receive it and also how to react to it. The funny part is silence wins here most of the time, since the response or reaction end up in making people look at us like “oh really !!! 😏”. The scary part is to differentiate fake and genuine compliments because a fake one can make the life of person hell one day.
I am ashamed with the answer but that is who I am. Very rarely I say No to things which would interfere with my goals.
Saying No is an art and not everybody is good at it. I can rank myself the least among them. If it takes others happiness or agreement , am ready to move away from the goal and say yes. Crazy as it sounds !!
In recent times, I started to read more about human attitudes and behaviors. I began to realize that trying to please people by saying yes to everything is a waste of effort. At the end people end up doing what they want to do, you were just the guide or listener there. Then why do I care to say yes to everything and just not start saying no from today !! But its not as easy as it seems like. For people like me, it’s a life changing behavior. We have been taught to please people more than choosing happiness for ourselves. And lets say the “goal” involves more people , the decision to say no becomes harder.
Appreciate the larger group who confidently say No which blocks their goals and climb up the success ladder. One day at a time, I will learn this art. I will also discard the regret of not making people happy for selfish reasons !!!
If I say No, that would be a lie. If I say yes , that also does not seem to fit. Being born in India or you were from anywhere in Asia, you are always a superstitious person I believe whether you admit it or not. There might be a very minimal percentage of people, who can confidently say that they are not superstitious.
People are always confused about superstitious and beliefs. When you are not superstitious, does not mean you are atheists or do not believe in a power. When there is a logic involved in every action you take, then you are a completely non superstitious person but that does not mean you do not believe in god or a power.
For me living life with logic circling around everywhere is impossible. There are some beliefs which have no logic but just the gut feeling. Then am I superstitious, maybe yes or maybe no. But the ultimate superstitious actions on every work you do is harmful and thankfully I am not in that percentage of people !!!
Which animal would you compare yourself to and why?
I guess I would like to compare myself with grasshopper. Even though I fear a lot for this species, somehow it is my companion in terms of attitude or behaviour.
As it hops around for its food, it has the ability to camouflage with the surroundings. Similarly I would gel with anyone around to make my path easier. Spread the wings, walk around and explore the world.
Like I said I resonate with the grasshopper as the beauty with brain 😃. I find it beautiful , maybe there are few which look horrific but the majority are cute.. Next time I find this , I am going to greet it with high five🙏😃😃(hope i do not run away😁)
So to start with, yesterday was Women’s Day. Cheers to all the ladies around the world. They stood by their heart to reach various milestones in their lives. Sorry to disappoint the majority but somehow I am against the notion of Women’s day. Also I am not saying celebrate every day as Women’s day as well.
I agree, we women have come across lot of hardships from the world. Telling us not to work after having a family, telling us to rank cooking over career and much more !! But aren’t these the country traditions or mentality being blindly followed without attributing them to gender? Think about a single father. He has lost his wife or decided to have a family without a woman in his life. He should not be appreciated ??
I have seen a lot of men doing more than what they need to do for a family. Then, just for the morality of the world speaking for women, the women in the family is awarded. I am not saying the women are not great. They do sacrifice for something they do not need to do. But I do feel for men !!! The human anatomy is built in a specific way. Certain things are meant for men. Others are meant only for women. But men’s day would get the least support. Meanwhile, women’s day would be all over the posters and social media.
In this new generation of equality and feminism, we have uprooted the generic ideology of emotions and human anatomy. We should recognize the mental health of a human, irrespective of the gender. For decades, women have suffered. That trauma has turned in a wrong direction. Now, we are reversing the gender for the same trauma. There can’t be a day for a specific gender. Instead, give yourself a day for mental health. Find freedom from the chaos that your mind brings into your daily life.
Cheers to all who have sacrificed something or the other for the happiness of others. More than that, cheers to the people who support each other in these stages. They do this without any judgments passed on to it. Again, I don’t want to upset the majority. I know there is no debate that can conclude this issue of women vs men. All I wish is for the world to solve the complex emotions of humans. This should be done by being together with no gender differences.
You did it Rachana !!! You did it. You lived it through all those twists and turns of life. I hope, as you read this, you know I am proud of who you have become. You have not been lost to the poison spread across the world. You reached to the stage only through your courage. At the current adult age, am not so confident on how things would go. But I am sure. I would have lived the life I wanted. I ruled with the decisions that my heart and mind made.
Love yourself. Spread the cute, innocent smile even when I have lost all my teeth. Keep smiling despite having wrinkles all over your face.
What is one question you hate to be asked? Explain.
The question I hate the most would be the people asking about those names which you are trying not to talk about!!!
Not sure what I hate about it. Maybe those overwhelming emotions that come when I hear those names or the regrets of not digesting certain facts surrounded by the names. All these years there are not many names in that list but the few which are there just will never be erased.
Memories and overthinking are the two conflicting things which make these things worse. I am sure as days go by these names might just vanish or when it does come you would happily respond to it with no regrets.
What experiences in life helped you grow the most?
When I was a kid I used to think life is hard and it always had a way to break my dreams in one way or the other. I joined the CBSE school thinking of an ambitious dream of joining the IITs. But life has its own way of saying you get what you need to get to learn. I had to drop out of school for unseen circumstances in my personal life. My life had shattered down to pieces. I never thought I would continue my education as well. But here I am a proud Software Engineer even though not to IIT level but I still love what I do.
So what do you get from this is whatever happens, the life experiences turn you to a different person you ever expected but a good one always at the end. You need to trust the process of life and learn from the hurdle you got on the way. That turning point in my personal rollercoaster did make me who I am today. This might seem like a bla bla story and frankly even if I re-read I would feel the same. All are in the same boat , experiences differ and perspectives as well. Not always we get to understand at the moment. Each day even myself needs reassurance that not always every story has a happy ending or chapters, you will have a lot of twists, surprises and unexpected times.
The silent, a short young girl with a little ambition of being part of a bunch of IIT people is now a developer who is being loved by many, noticed by many and growing each day. Life did not give me what I dreamt of, but what it gave was not less than any dream of a person.
I am grateful for all those experiences which are making me better day by day. Maybe you do not get an answer today but one day you would be surprised to see this is why it happened and it was not a curse but a boon in your life. Trust the flow and your choice , if it goes as you wish still learn and try to be better. If not going in your expected direction, not to worry there is always light at the end of the tunnel !!
The more accurate question would be, do I want to believe in fate or destiny !!! It is a hard pill to swallow. When do we ask this question. When life is smooth and all is well , no one dares to look at destiny or fate right !! It is always their smartness or hardwork at those times. But when things turn ugly in your life, you turn your face towards fate or destiny!!
I have never heard people speaking of good destiny or good fate. Somehow these words are attached to unlucky or sadness which I hate to the core. Why cannot people be well destined always right!!
So do i want to believe in fate or destiny. Yes i do !! Do i believe in it ?? Not sure because things turn ugly whatever you do if it’s situational then why blame the destiny or fate!!! I want to see life as a gift given, live it as it is and not tag it with destiny. If destiny decides where I or people need to be , then the world would have been a lot more bad place. At the end it is the choice you take decides your fate and not the fate deciding your choice.
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