It swings until there is an external force happening on it continuously, yes the pendulum. Have you ever tried to stop a pendulum at the center with your hands and utterly failed, I have.

You can never stop a pendulum that is already super powered by external forces. It may be wind, or it may be some actions. Until all these have a stop, it’s never going to stay in the center. Ironically, we live our life like a pendulum. We swing through life with a lot of confusions. Our emotions and reactions often just do not have any meaning. Letting it be as it is can make it calm down. However, we, so-called human beings, tend to add the if’s and but’s in life. What if I lose all my money? What if I am alone for my whole life? I am happy, but I would have been happier if I had him. I would have been happier if I had more money or if I had that house. It’s just never ending.

The simple meaning of happiness is successfully destroyed with the if’s and but’s. Make the pendulum calm by its own. It may take a long time or just a few seconds. Do not waste time by putting in extra effort. Avoid swinging it with much greater force. A very hard truth to digest is that the safest way to deal with anything is to be the pendulum. Swing around n number of times. Calm down at a certain point. Do not disturb it by putting more energy towards it.

There is only one things which keeps you calm, happiness with whatever state you are. Keep the pendulum steady until you are ready. Face the forces as they are. Return to the same steady state no matter what it takes.